Most of my friends and family say it’s quite challenging to raise a Resilient kid, who is very stubborn to give up or set back things. But I speak as a parent when you are much stubborn about your child’s mood, how can you expect your kid to be resilient. First try yourself to be a resilient parent to raise a resilient kid or child, as children are the just like shaping muds who need to be nurtured with instinct characteristics.
Let me be clear with the meaning of resilient, especially with kids. When a child comes across a problem or encounter difficulty, they are ready to face the challenge or bounce back from the negative feeling very quickly. Being resilient helps children to be more optimistic, positive growing, healthy, energetic and filled with hope.
Firstly, we shall discuss a few tricks and tips to raise a Resilient kid successfully
Children are the most precious stones, who need to be sharped to get a shine but not stored in your lockers. Let them explore the world with lots of enthusiasm and attitude. A famous quote by Janet Reno says “Raising child is the most difficult thing ever, it takes love, handwork, luck and lot of energy. But in the end, it’s the most rewarding experience that you can ever have”. As a parent I wanted to share a few scenarios, how to be a resilient parent, how should you respond and about how to deal with your kids in raising them as resilient kids.
Let them make mistakes and learn
Life is a game of mistakes, whoever makes can learn to the fullest.
If you keep protecting them from all the odds, then your kids feel that all the days keep going smoothly like an ice cream. Stop rescuing them from challenging situations, and let them face on their own. Let them cut their veggies and chicken to make a clear soup. Just help them to pick up the right ingredients. Stop accompanying them all the day.
Let them learn on their own by assigning simple daily works like reminding to return library books, bring dry wash clothes, clean the coffee table etc. Day one, they may not perform well, but soon they learn to put everything right, become experts, make sure to reach on time and be responsible with article counts like books or clothes.
Teach own problem-solving techniques
Staying at home and not involving in school activities doesn’t make your kids active.
Send them to a school camp, put them outside the home comfort zone to learn responsibilities. Going to outings or field trips makes them understand your love and concern, mingle with friends, sharing goods, the value of money and many other skills
Involve them in school annual day activities or other cultural events. Encourage them to sing a song, or recite a story to normalize stage fear or child nervousness. Help them in giving the best output on stage in front of his/her friends and teachers, boosting their confidence levels.
Be a supportive parent
Stop saying “No” to every situation brought up by your child. Try to be a supportive parent instead of continuous questions like “Why,” “What.” Replace your “why” with “How” to make your child comfortable with you, instead of an argument. Try to ask “How to deal with the situation” instead of “Why you have been through the situation?”.
I hear many of the parents yelling questions like “why did you break the glass?”, Instead, frame up your question as “how did it break? Did it hurt you?”. It’s quite soothing for your child to hear such a question in a calm tone. This makes them cautious that broken glass can hurt them.
Make positive comments
Being an optimistic parent or a positive commenter will surely help you to raise a resilient kid. When your child tries a new activity, which is risky or adventures like trekking or swimming, don’t immediately say “No you are not going to do this” , “I am not allowing you to do” or “it’s dangerous at this age.” Be a resilient parent, be optimistic about every deed. You may fear of such activities, but be proud that your child is going forward without hesitation.
Offer positive guidance or comments like “Sure, try the safe method with the help of your trainer” or “that’s great, you are rocking. But be a bit, careful baby”. Such comments surely motivate them to succeed.
Being an adult, control your emotions
First try to control your emotions, when to face a challenge or lose love or experience sudden death in the family. Emotions don’t last forever, but they are a peek at a particular stage of life. In such cases, try to take a deep breath, calm down yourself and try to face the situation in most positive tone. Seeing you, your child learns how to handle such situations and be the most resilient kid ever.
Children learn better by watching their parents, not by listening to words. A famous quote by an author says “Kids do what they watch but not what they hear”. So, try being a resilient parent yourself, showcasing your kid most optimistic and hopeful behaviour and attitude. Watching you in such a favourable manner, your child will be a resilient kid.