1. Talk to Them!
“The year of 2 is all about language,” says a pediatrician and spokesperson for the American Academy of Pediatrics. “It’s language, language, language.” Around this time, kids should know at least 50 words and begin putting them together in simple phrases or fuller sentences. But in order to grow their vocabulary, toddlers need to be spoken to by their caregivers almost constantly.
Some parents, strapped for time, have looked for shortcuts for this kind of one-on-one knowledge transfer, like TV shows or video games that purportedly boost learning. You don’t have to buy these things!
Fortunately, a developmental psychologist at New York University, says there is another way. You can incorporate all kinds of learning into your own schedule. Just narrating your day-to-day life—from the ingredients you’re buying for dinner to the clothes you’re picking out for work—is a big boon to your kid’s language acquisition and shouldn’t take up any extra time.
2. Make Them Do Things on Their Own
This one is also extremely helpful to busy parents. We really underestimate what a 2-year-old can accomplish. Kids this age start doing basic tasks like brushing their teeth and picking out clothes mostly on their own. They should also start potty training and figuring out how to calm themselves down when they get worked up (which, at this age, is often).
While it’s likely kids this age has also begun practicing kindness and cooperation (in between those tantrums), they should be given chores that further develop this sense of responsibility. In addition to encouraging cooperation and other positive traits chores make kids feel like a part of the family unit. That’s basic self-esteem: Somebody is relying on you to do something to help someone else. This strong foundation is essential for kids as they grow and begin to test their boundaries. So let them pick up their own toys—it’ll help you, and them.
3. Let Them Be Kids
Though it can feel like toddlers need to be hitting certain developmental targets, experts say it’s important to indulge their curiosity and play—a lot. Two-year-olds should be learning how to play quietly by themselves (seriously, nobody likes an adult who can’t keep themselves entertained), and traditional toys like trains and dolls encourage this kind of self-directed creativity.
But toddlers should also use play as a way of thinking through problems and learning new things—and that requires an adult to play along. Reading books together is one important part of a daily routine for toddlers. Increasingly, parents rely on screens for this type of stimulation too. Just like everything else in a toddler’s life, screen time has to be carefully managed to be effective. Similar to handing a child who can’t yet read a book and expecting anything beneficial to come of it, 2-year-olds shouldn’t be left alone with screens. Instead, shows and games should be watched and played together, with parental narration supplementing media and making screen time more interactive.